MY APPROACH
You’ve given it a lot of thought. But you still feel stuck.
I help you understand what’s behind your doubts, conflicts and recurring relationship patterns—so you can move beyond understanding and start making changes.
It’s hard to see the bigger picture when you’re in the middle of it.
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I listen to what you say.
And pay attention to what goes unsaid.
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I notice the patterns.
Between moving closer and pulling away. Between giving in and growing resentful. Between attacking and defending.
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I gently challenge what’s keeping you stuck.
With empathy and honesty, without labelling you or casting either of you in a fixed role.
WHAT WE CAN WORK THROUGH TOGETHER
Does any of this sound familiar?
For couples:
- We keep having the same arguments.
- We feel more like housemates than partners.
- Intimacy and sex have become difficult.
- Trust has been broken.
- We want different things when it comes to big decisions, like marriage or having children.
- We’re not sure whether we want to stay together.
Wenn du alleine kommst:
- I keep falling for people who aren’t good for me or are emotionally unavailable.
- I find it hard to let people get close to me.
- I’m trying to move on after a breakup.
- I’m unhappy in my relationship and don’t know whether to stay or leave.
- I lose sight of who I am when I’m in a relationship.
- No one ever seems quite right for me.
This isn’t about assigning blame or telling anyone off. It’s about understanding what’s happening within you or between you—and what needs to change so you don’t keep ending up in the same place.
THE APPROACHES I DRAW ON
Different ways
to get to the heart of things.
No single approach works equally well for every person or couple. Some people find it helpful to talk through their thoughts and feelings. Others benefit more from practical exercises, a fresh perspective or paying attention to what they feel in their bodies. That’s why I draw on a range of approaches rather than following a fixed formula. How we work together depends on you, what brings you here and what feels helpful in the moment.
THE PERSON-CENTRED APPROACH — CARL ROGERS
You’re at the centre of our work.
You’re welcome to bring whatever is on your mind—even if it feels contradictory, uncomfortable or difficult to put into words. I meet you with empathy, openness and acceptance. That doesn’t mean agreeing with everything or avoiding difficult subjects. It means listening without judging you and giving you space to explore your own thoughts, feelings and answers. When you come as a couple, both of you have that space. The aim isn’t to decide who’s right, but to understand you both.
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED therapy — SUE JOHNSON
Understanding what’s beneath your reactions.
Criticism, withdrawal and even arguments that seem purely practical often have feelings and needs beneath them that are hard to express. Perhaps you raise your voice because you don’t feel heard. Perhaps you pull away because you’re afraid of falling short again. The harder one person tries to get close, the further the other retreats. In emotionally focused work, we explore these cycles and how they escalate. You learn to understand your own feelings, needs and wishes more clearly—and see your partner’s reactions in a different light. This creates a foundation for conversations that are more open and honest, and less likely to hurt.
WORKING WITH PARTS OF YOURSELF
Understanding what different parts of you need.
You might recognise the feeling of being pulled in different directions. Part of you wants closeness, while another part wants space. Part of you wants to save the relationship, while another wonders whether you should stay.
Rather than treating these conflicting feelings as something to get rid of, we give them room and explore them. Which parts of you are speaking up? What are they trying to protect you from? What do they need?
This can help you make sense of your reactions, work through inner conflict and make decisions that take all sides of you into account.
A SYSTEMIC APPROACH TO SEX AND INTIMACY — ULRICH CLEMENT
There’s room to talk about sex, too.
Talking about sex can be difficult. Wishes go unspoken, differences feel personal and rejection can easily be taken to mean a lack of love. A systemic approach looks at sex as part of your relationship and your lives as individuals—not as a separate issue. The aim isn’t to define what a “normal” or “right” sex life should look like. It’s to understand your desires and differences, and explore what kind of intimacy and sexual relationship works for you both.
ABOUT MY SERVICES
Counselling is not psychotherapy.
I offer psychological and couples counselling for personal and relationship concerns. My work is intended to help you gain clarity, find direction and develop a better understanding of yourself and your relationships.
Counselling is not psychotherapy or medical treatment. I do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. If you’re experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition, please speak to a doctor or a qualified psychotherapist. In some cases, counselling alongside treatment may be possible after we’ve discussed it together.